The Autonomy Quest
by Peter Fritz Walter
Many parents ignore that babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers, already before reaching the age of primary school, need to develop autonomy.
What is essential to retain in this context is that we learn the basic movement into autonomy during our first year of life, and not later on during adolescence or when we allegedly turn into that magic world of adulthood. This is how it should.
Of course it doesn’t go that way in our culture, which is why I am doing what I am doing. And if I thought that once a life is spoilt in childhood, it’s spoilt forever, as 1970s child psychology believed, I would not write this and other books to help people develop autonomy and soul reality.
To say, I am convinced that you can build autonomy later on in life. I have done it. I never had the chance to do it during childhood or adolescence. I was hopelessly codependent with my mother, as a child and even as a youngster. And I have been emotionally and physically abused all over my childhood and youth.
So if I could do it, you can do it.